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human record here on earth, to say that "the
family is the fundamental unit of society"
would be to say something unexceptional, or
obvious: the equivalent of saying "the sky
is blue" or "waves crash on the
seashore." It has only been in relatively
recent times, and only among certain educated
elites in Northwest Europe and America, that we
have heard statements such as:
- The family is "simply an institution
for the more complete subjugation and
enslavement of women and children"
[Frances Swiney 1918]; or
- Marriage is "an institution which
robs a woman of her individuality and
reduces her to the level of a
prostitute" [Flora Macdonald Denison
1914]; or
- Motherhood "is a calamity to be
avoided" [Ernestine Mills, 1919];or
- "The family goes back to the age of
savagery while the state belongs to the
age of civilization" [Arthur
Calhoun, 1917].
These quotations all came from Anglo-American
sources, early in the 20' Century, during the
unsettling years of the great War, 1914 to 1919.
Such ideas receded in most places during the
1920's, but returned again during the tumultuous
1960's and 1970's, when the family once more
became a target of social and sexual
revolutionaries. As the writer Stephanie Dowrick
explained this view in her book, "Why
Children?: the family is the basic
institution of oppression, "with father at
the head and mother and children in a lump
together dependent on father's goodwill."
Or, as the radical Andrea Dworkin explained in
her book, Our Blood: "Marriage
laws [sanctify] rape by reiterating the right of
the rapist to ownership of the raped." Or as
analyst Sona Osman explained in a 1983 article,
"The family was neither fundamental nor
natural. Indeed, the word "natural,"
like the term "normal" was "a word
a [social radical] should use with extreme
caution."
Yet,, despite these ideological assaults, the
truths of human nature could not be suppressed.
When honestly conducted, free from ideological
bias, both the social sciences and the natural
sciences force us to see the "natural"
and "fundamental" meaning of the
family.
In the study of social history, for example,
even the new historiography of figures such as
Peter Laslett has confirmed certain old truths:
in Anglo-American society, monogamy is
still, and has always been, the social rule [Household
and Family in Past Time, p. 63], while
the nuclear family unit built on marriage,
and supplemented by varying extended family ties,
has always been and remains still the only
significant family forms [p.67]. Importantly,
Laslett adds: "Departure from the monogamous
ideal of behavior, amongst English people
nowadays, and perhaps among their ancestors, has
been particularly conspicuous within the elite,
and rejection of the beliefs associated with monogamy
especially common with the
intellectuals...." This is a problem to
which we will return later.
Some 20th Century American
historians have also claimed that the American
people, early on, had moved away from "the
ancient structure of family life" and toward
a heightened individualism, where the family did
not count. According to this interpretation, we
were "a population raised on an economic
tradition of land speculation and individualistic
venturing," people who refused to make
sacrifices for any cause other than themselves.
Yet again, more recent and better historical
investigations have discredited this once-popular
view. The new interpretation sees American
society, before mass industrialization in the
late 19th Century, as strongly
familial in nature. The economy was
home-centered, and most productive
activities-from furniture-making to the raising
and preparation of food-were family based. This
'family' or 'home economy' rested on a complex
web of obligations: parents saw the ownership of
land and other productive property as a kind of
trust, held for the perpetuation of the family
line through the children. Great attention
focused on the terms and timing of the transfer
of economic resources to future generations. In
return, the elderly would enjoy care and support
from their grown children. At the micro-level,
kinship, ethnic, and religious bonds held America
together. These Americans, in historian Barry
Levy's words, were committed to the creation of
families and to the rearing of children as
"tender plants growing in the truth."
American families during the Colonial,
Revolutionary, and early National periods were
large-an average of seven live children per
married couple-and respectful of age, deferring
on most important matters to the wisdom of
elders. As historian James Henretta has put it:
these American parents raised children "to
succeed them," not just to succeed.
Even after industrialization, the new
historians have shown how Americans sought to
preserve the family-centeredness of their
society. For example, labor leaders joined with
industrialists such as Henry Ford to craft a
"family wage" system, which would limit
the intrusion of industry into the home economy,
preserve some level of autonomy for the family,
and create conditions where the child-rich or
larger family might survive.
In short, historians have repudiated the
claims of the ideologues, and restored attention
to the natural and proper place of the
family as the fundamental unit of society.
The same "rediscovery" of the family
has come in the fields of sociology and
psychology. A quarter-century ago, leading
Western scholars in these disciplines were busy
"debunking" the family, claiming that
it was oppressive to the human personality,
arguing that children did not need an active
father to grow up normally, and urging full
recognition and public support for what they
called "new family forms."
But here, too, the tide has clearly turned.
For the last twelve years, the New
Research supplement to The Howard
Center's publication, The Family in
America, has summarized
relevant new studies from the professional
journals, which affirm the irreplaceable
role of the family. We now have a database of
over 1 200 such journal articles. Here is just a
sample of what we have found:
- The Summer 1998 issue of Journal
of Marriage and Family reports
on a 17-nation study of marital status
and happiness, showing "perhaps the
most sweeping and strongest
evidence to date in support of the
relationship between marital status and
happiness." The strength of the bond
between "being married and being
happy" is "remarkably
consistent in every country
studied"; moreover, the Wayne State
University researchers show that
46marriage protects females just as much
from unhappiness as it protects
males."
- The 1998 issue of The Journal
of Health and Social Behavior shows
that women who live in neighborhoods with
a high level of fatherless, mother-led
families "experience an 85 percent
increased risk of dying of heart
disease."
- The May 1998 issue of Demography shows
that the presence of fathers in the home
is vital to adolescent well being.
Fathers have particular influence in the
areas of children's subsequent economic
success and educational attainment, and
in keeping children away from delinquent
behavior.
- The journal Violence and
Victims reports that
nearly half of lesbians report
"being or having been the victim of
relationship violence" from their
same-sex partners, four times the
violence level reported by heterosexual
couples.
- The Journal of Socio-Economics
reports that the presence of
church-attending persons in
Swedish neighborhoods dramatically
reduces rates of abortion, divorce,
bankruptcy, and out-of-wedlock births: even
among the non-believers who live in
those places.
- And a 1998 issue of The
Journal of Marriage and Family reports
that while the percent of all white
females who were virgins fell from 51 %
in 1982 to 42% by 1988, the percent of
female teens who were fundamentalist
Protestants and who were virgins rose
from 45 to 61 % over these same six
years.
Indeed, the evidence is overwhelming today
that "fathers matters," that
single-parent families suffer from numerous
innate disabilities, that the intentional
out-of-wedlock child is a selfish, anti-social
act that puts the child at great risk, that
cohabitation is a violence-prone way of life,
that marriage--compared to all the
alternatives-produces more happiness and better
health among adults and happier, healthier,
smarter, and socially more well-adjusted
children, and that religious belief and activity
deliver a host of positive social gifts. The
"new family forms," in short, are
frauds, proven so by the social sciences, just as
by the lessons of history.
The natural sciences chime in as well. In the
fields of human biology and bio-chemistry, for
example, dramatic new findings highlight the
important effects of hormonal and psychological
differences between women and men: in everything
from the functioning of the nervous system and
the brain, to emotional drives. The lessons, of
course, are not that one sex is
"better" than or "superior"
to the other; such claims are at once wrong and
irrelevant. The true lesson is the remarkable
complementarity of woman and man: in the creation
of families and in the rearing of children, men
and women are designed to work together, each
bringing special gifts and aptitudes which make
the combination greater or stronger than the sum
of its parts.
This is why research by social biologists
shows:
- That children raised outside intact,
two-natural-parent families are 40
times more likely to be physically or
sexually abused than are children raised
in intact, natural parent families;
- Or that "maternal care" of
young children provides "a
protective factor" in psychological
wellbeing that neither fathers nor
nonparental caregivers can provide (ref
The Journal of Genetic
Psychology, 1998);
- Or that level of the male hormone,
testosterone, goes down among married
men, who by marrying become less
aggressive and more cooperative in
socially constructive ways: that is, they
became gentle men.
The great anthropologists have long told us
that marriage and family living are universal to
the human species. G.P. Murdoch, in his 1949
classic work Social Structure,
defined marriage as existing only when
the economic and the sexual are united into one
relationship, yet still found it "in every
known human society." Also universal. he
said, was "a division of labor by sex,"
rooted in the natural and indisputable
differences in reproductive function. Another of
the great 20th Century
anthropologists, Bronislaw Malinowski, has also
testified to this universality of marriage,
concluding that there is "something bigger
in human marriage," rooted in "the
deepest needs of human nature and society."
Indeed, even the evolutionary theorists
testify to family living as a defining
trait of humanity. In his seminal 1982
article for Science magazine,
paleo-anthropologist C. Owen Lovejoy marshalls
the evidence showing that both human survival
as a species and evolutionary progress have
depended on what he calls "the unique sexual
reproductive behavior" of humankind. Indeed,
he shows that the human family system, rooted
in complementary pair-bonding, reaches back
hundreds of thousands of years; he even suggests
that the very definition of
"human" rests on this family behavior.
As Lovejoy writes: "[B]oth advanced material
culture and the Pleistocene acceleration in brain
development are sequelae to an already
established hominid character system, which
included intensified parenting and social
relationships, monogamous pair-bonding,
specialized sexualreproductive behavior [by
male and female], and bipedality. It implies that
the nuclear family and human sexual
behavior may have their ultimate origin long
before the dawn of the Pleistocene." Even before
early man could walk on two legs, he was
living in a recognizably human family system.
The message in short?: To be human is to be
familial. Any significant departure from the
family rooted in stable marriage, the welcoming
of children, and respect for ancestors and
posterity-any deviation from this social
structure makes us less "human": that
is, I believe, the message of modern science.
Revealingly, it is also the message of all the
world's great religions. While differing on many
things, the great faiths show that the deepest
meanings and the greatest satisfactions for
humankind are to be found in family living. It
should be with a certain humility that science,
after a century and a half of diligent
investigation of human nature, comes to
conclusions that in ways largely echo-albeit in
less poetic style-the explanations given long ago
in Genesis 1, chapters 1 and 2:
"So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him; male and
female he created them. And God blessed them,
and God said to them: 'Be fruitful and
multiply, and fill the earth ... 1)'"
And as that first man met that first
woman, the man said:
'This at last is bone of my bones and
flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.'
"Therefore a man leaves his father and
his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they
become one flesh."
Yet this analysis begs another question? If
the family is natural, fundamental, indeed
irreplaceable, how do we account for the
occasional success of anti-family ideas?
In particular, how can we explain the special
success of the post-family ideology that has
shown considerable influence at the United
Nations?
Certainly, this was not inevitable. And
certainly, it was not the intent of the founders
of the U.N. Rather, I think we can explain this
development through the influence of certain
intellectuals in certain places and at certain
times. More specifically, the answer lies in the
unusually strong influence at the U.N. of a
socially radical form of Scandinavian democratic
socialism during its formative years, 1945-1955;
a story best told, I think, through the work of
one early U.N. official: Alva Myrdal. She was not
the only actor her; but she was surely one of the
most influential.
During those formative years, the Scandinavian
countries exerted an unusually strong influence
on the U.N.'s administrative structure. As
European peoples largely "untouched" by
nazism, fascism, or colonialism, and with a
common commitment to the "middle way"
of democratic socialism, the Scandinavians were
well placed to implement a new internationalist
agenda. The Norwegian Trygve Lie served as U.N.
Secretary General from 1946 to 1953, followed by
the Swede Dag Hammarskjold through 1961. Swedish
economist Gunnar Myrdal headed the powerful U.N.
Economic Commission for Europe [E.C.E.] from 1947
to 1955, while Nordic functionaries were
disproportionately represented in other agencies.
Starting in 1946, the U.N. structure included
a 15-member Commission on the Status of Women,
originally designed to be a forum on issues such
as the extension of the vote to women and the
suppression of international traffic in
prostitution. Yet in the 1949-1955 period, the
United Nations' engagement on women's issues
underwent a decided shift, under the guiding
influence of Alva Myrdal.
Her background tells us a good deal. Raised by
her parents in a strong socialist ideological
environment, Alva Reimers married economist
Gunnar Myrdal in 1924, launching an extraordinary
collaboration. In the late 1920's, she traveled
to the United States as a Rockefeller Foundation
fellow, absorbing theories of family decline and
"loss of function" from sociologists
such as William Ogburn, and the progressive view
of the state school "as a substitute for the
family." In 1932, she planned construction
of a "collective house" in Stockholm,
where career-oriented families would turn infant
and child care, food preparation, and recreation
over to professionals.
In 1934, Alva and Gunnar Myrdal jointly
authored Kris i Befolkningsfrågan
(Crisis in the
Population Question). Under
the pretext of a campaign to raise Sweden's
birthrate, the book advanced an agenda for a new
form of social life. The existing family system,
they argued, "is almost ...
pathological," "rootless,"
"isolated," and doomed to
"disintegration and sterility." It must
be replaced by a new social model, where women
would stand by men "as comrades" in
productive wage labor, where children would
become a social or state responsibility, and
where antique notions surrounding "private
life" and "home" would give way to
state-guided social planning and cooperation.
Other components of this vision were a
liberalization of the restrictive Swedish
abortion law, readily available contraception,
sex education as part of the regular school
curriculum, population targets and controls as a
state responsibility, and elimination of legal
and social distinctions between married and
unmarried adults. Alva Myrdal also argued that
these goals required the conscious dismantling of
remaining traditional homes, through law and
policy, and even coercive efforts "to
eliminate" women's roles that were
incompatible with her vision.
This book, Crisis in
the Population Question had a profound
influence on Swedish attitudes and public policy.
The Myrdals became important public figures at
this time, and their own marriage won wide praise
as the model for the future. The Myrdals' direct
influence spread as well to Norway and Denmark,
where they inspired "Population
Commissions" that reordered those nations in
line with their theories.
A decade later, however, husband Gunnar grew
absorbed in his new tasks for the United Nations.
Alva Myrdal saw her own new style marriage
falling apart, complaining bitterly that the
"ECE became everything for Gunnar, the
family and I nothing." According to the
testimony of her daughter, Sissela Myrdal Bok,
their "full-fledged companionship" as
spouses and as partners-in-work "had now
been abandoned." Alva's marital role
"had become nothing but a mask," and
the Myrdal home grew "alien, empty, [and]
devoid of love."
This strain, and threatened rupture, of a
marriage was and is a tragic tale, but not one
terribly uncommon in the war-wracked 1940's. The
difference was that Alva Myrdal soon gained a
unique opportunity to translate her new family
ideology-conditioned by her recent personal
experience-onto a global political canvas.
In early 1948, she gave a lecture to U.N.
officials based in Geneva on "the Surplus
Energy of Married Women," arguing that
global social and economic woes could be
countered by moving women outside the restraints
of traditional marriage. Such work attracted the
attention of Secretary General Lie, who offered
her the directorship of the Secretariat's
Department of Social Affairs. In "a period
of desperate powerlessness," and traumatized
by the Swiss women about her who she said held,
"cow-like, to traditional female tasks,
Myrdal accepted the appointment. She left Geneva
for New York, leaving behind her troubled
marriage and her two daughters, ages 15 and 12.
Alva Myrdal was now the highest ranking woman
in any international organization, and she turned
her considerable energies toward
institutionalizing two issues at the United
Nations: the reconstruction of sex roles and
population control. These concerns rose steadily
on the United Nations agenda. In summer, 1950,
she accepted a new appointment as head of the
Division of Social Science at the United Nations
Economic and Social Council, a post held through
1955. The choice was curious, for Myrdal had no
formal training as a social scientist (her
university degree was in literature).
Nonetheless, she proceeded to rebuild social
science institutes and faculties in war-ravaged
countries and to create new ones in the
post-colonial states. Her control over program
funds provided an unprecedented opportunity to
pass over or eliminate those social scientists
rooted in historicist sociology, who had
emphasized the central role of the family. They
would be replaced by those committed to Myrdal's
vision of the family as a social institution
needing radical change. In later years, many of
these scholars would return to United Nations'
fora as national delegates, reinforcing the
vision of their benefactor. Myrdal also built a
Division staff compatible with her views, that
remained long after her departure. Myrdal battled
regularly against "Catholic
governments" and "Catholic
scholars" who held that there was no
over-population crisis, only a need for social
and economic reforms. This conflict was
particularly intense at the 1954 U.N. World
Population Conference, in Rome.
In the late 1960's, Alva Myrdal also chaired a
committee of the Swedish Social Democratic Party
on "equality," producing a manifesto
subtitled The Alva Myrdal Report.
The document acknowledged that the pursuit of
equality means a constant struggle by
"society" to level those matters
"where Nature has created great and
fundamental differences." Note the point
here: the natural complementarity between
men and women must be subverted by state
action. Equally radial in its implications, The
Alva Myrdal Report dismissed the
home, the informal economy, and other forms of
traditional society, as dangerous to the future.
Instead, she said, individuals should have a
common dependence on the central state. Marriage
as a distinctive legal, social, and economic
construct need also be eliminated. As The
Alva Myrdal Report explained:
- "No specific form of cohabitation
should be rewarded through the tax
system, which should be the same for
everyone regardless of sex or civil
status;"
- "Every adult is responsible for
his/her own support. Benefits previously
inherent in married status should be
eliminated...."
- "At the same time it appears
important to provide more protection to
other forms of cohabitation [instead of
marriage]."
Myrdal's radical vision of a post-family
society, formed in Sweden and institutionalized
within the United Nations, has since borne
significant fruit.
So what should we now do? It is time to bring
to the United Nations and to other
international settings the shared truth of
history, of the social sciences, of the natural
sciences, and of the great religious faiths: that
the family is the natural and fundamental social
unit, inscribed in our nature as human beings, rooted
in marriage, rooted in the commitment to
bring new life into the world, and rooted in a
deep respect for both ancestors and posterity.
It is time to move this view of the family as the
fundamental social unit to the very heart of
international deliberations, so that it might
guide the creation of laws and public policies in
our respective nations. The radical model of the
"post-family" society does not work. It
generates violence, disorder, unhappiness, ruined
lives, and even premature death. We are all
called to do better in and for the future.
Perhaps it will be the Africans, the people of
the Middle East, the Central Americans, and the
Asians who will-even must-take the lead.
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